Healthy and Passionate Relationships after Emotional Pain (Re-Programming the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style)

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This course contains 3 hours of video content, webinars and quizzes.

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Does this sound familiar to you?

Do you think of yourself as a compassionate, empathetic, and giving person? Yet does it seem like despite your incredible capacity to be a wonderful partner, for some reason your relationships often feel overwhelming? 

Does it ever feel like you:

  • Keep ending up in relationships that make you feel unseen and underappreciated
  • Have a very hard time truly trusting people, even when you really love them?
  • Catch yourself scanning your partner for possible signs of betrayal?
  • Keep experiencing an underlying sense of worry that you could be missing out on something better than your relationship, making you feel guilty?
  • Feel angry or resentful when others don’t match the effort you put into your relationships?
  • Repeatedly tell yourself that something is wrong with you and that you need to fix it before you can be loved?

It’s not your fault! You just haven’t been taught how to trust others, manage your fear of betrayal, or cultivate self-love.

In this course, you can look forward to...

  • Learning scientifically proven tools and strategies for healing your fearful avoidant attachment style in as little as 1 week so you can get exactly what you want out of your relationships. 
  • Understanding exactly where your betrayal wounds come from, so you can let go of your fear of trust and welcome love with an open heart.
  • Learning what your specific relationship needs are, so you can easily identify the types of romantic partners that are the best match for you, and avoid the ones that make you anxious. 
  • Advancing your communication skills, so you can always get what you need from others in the moment, be it your space, or more attention. 
  • Cultivating more self-love, so that you can start speaking to yourself more kindly and start setting healthy boundaries. 
  • Correcting beliefs like “I’m unworthy” and “something is wrong with me”, so you can stop doubting your worth. 
  • Learning healthy coping strategies you can use daily to feel calm, safe, and at ease rather than anxious and on high-alert.

Here's A Sneak Peek Into What We'll Cover


    1. Welcome Video

    2. Download Your Course Materials

    1. Root Causes of Fearful Avoidance

    2. How to Recognize Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style & Relationship Dynamic

    3. The Fearful Avoidant's Enmeshment Trauma & their Guilt and Shame

    4. Workbook Exercise 1: Chronic Guilt & Shame Awareness & Upgrading

    1. Fearful Avoidant's Core Subconscious Wounds & Emotional Triggers

    2. Workbook Exercise 2: Personal BTEA Equation

    3. Re-Programming Fearful Avoidant's Core Subconscious Wounds

    4. Workbook Exercise 3: Thought Upgrading & Emotional Processing

    5. Workbook Exercise 4: Belief Re-Programming Rituals with Autosuggestion

    6. Workbook Exercise 5: Vision of The Future for Re-Programming

    7. Workbook Exercise 6: Action Re-Programming Exercise

    1. Communicating Effectively With a Fearful Avoidant

    2. Workbook Exercise 7 (Part 1): Conflict Communication - Feelings & Needs Exercise

    3. Workbook Exercise 7 (Part 2): Conflict Communication - Expression

    4. Workbook Exercise 7 (Part 3): Conflict Communication - Understanding Over Conflict

    1. The Fearful Avoidant's Needs & Interactions with Other Attachment Styles

    2. Final Quiz

    3. Course Feedback

    1. Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style Webinar Q&A: Part One (Oct 27, 2019)

    2. Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style Webinar Q&A: Part Two (Oct 29, 2019)

    3. General Attachment Style Q&A (Nov 16, 2019)

    4. Interactions Between the Fearful Avoidant and the Dismissive Avoidant (Nov 20, 2019)

How It Works

The Healthy and Passionate Relationships after Emotional Pain (Re-Programming the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style) is a self-paced and online course you can complete on your own schedule, whenever and however works for you. You’ll:


    No need to worry about reading through long textbooks! Like many of our members, you’ll find Thais’ teaching style to be truly captivating and easy to understand. You’ll experience a wonderful breakthrough about your fearful avoidant attachment style. The specific tools and techniques are waiting for you – apply them to your relationship, and you will see lasting positive changes!


    Supplement your learning with key course notes and thought-provoking exercises that you can apply to your own personal life. Just follow along digitally or print off your workbook to scribble down your thoughts as you go.


    And prepare to welcome deeper connection and a whole new sense of self-love after the breakthrough you’ve had during your course. You’ll walk away with heightened self of self-awareness and sharpened communication skills that will last you a lifetime.

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This course can be the 1 thing that changes everything!

Congratulation! Since you’ve made it all the way here, I know one thing about you: you are dedicated to changing. You are a tenacious and brave person. And you will 100% make it. Let’s get this journey started - I believe in you!


When you up level your life through The Personal Development School, you’ll experience phenomenal things:

    • You master the art of creating relationships where you feel free yet seen, and create the inner shifts necessary to finally trust your partner.
    • You establish supportive habits to start to act like a secure person. With our All-Access Pass, you’ll also join our engaged community that holds you accountable to learning and growing.
    • You feel the relief of accepting and loving yourself – and as a consequence, feel better on the daily and motivated to achieve your dreams!

Frequently Asked Questions

  • People with fearful avoidant attachment styles develop a number of fears and behaviors that affect their adult relationships, particularly their romantic relationships. Fearful avoidant attachments are always on high alert, looking for signs that the person/people they love might leave them or betray them at any time. When feeling dissatisfied in their relationships, they struggle with intense feelings of guilt. People with fearful avoidant attachment tend to deal with feelings of anger and resentment when they find themselves giving too much and not having the same effort returned to them. A fearful avoidant person often also typically suffers from low self esteem and a negative view of themselves. People with a fearful avoidant attachment may be very confusing to others in their interpersonal relationships and especially in their romantic relationships, because they regularly come close, seeking intimacy, but then are equally as quick to pull away, seeking space.

  • According to attachment theory, attachment styles develop in people from a very young age, depending on the emotional situations and experiences a child has with their primary caregivers in their early childhood. A person may grow up to have one of the four attachment styles: a fearful avoidant attachment, anxious preoccupied attachment, dismissive avoidant attachment, or secure attachment. The adult attachment styles are thus a direct reflection of childhood trauma (or lack thereof). The theory of attachment styles goes deeper and looks at how the specific belief patterns and behaviors impact a person's adult attachment style. A fearful avoidant attachment style (also known as disorganized attachment style) is one of the three insecure attachment styles according to attachment theory. If someone grows up with a fearful avoidant adult attachment, it's because they likely grew up in an environment where they experienced inconsistent emotional support or where there was a lot of polarity in the home. They might have had a strong emotional connection with one of their parents, but a lot of avoidance from the other. Another thing that causes fearful avoidant attachment is when both parents are supportive, but at infrequent times. When this happens, the fearful avoidant child never really knows what to expect. If a child's caregiver was very hot and cold with the young child, they probably began to understand that their love was conditional — based on them performing well or behaving a certain way. They also most probably grew up to fear rejection.

  • Yes! You can transform all insecure attachment styles into secure attachment. Even if you identify with a disorganized attachment style, and fear closeness in intimate relationships, it is fully in your power to turn it around – and start to attract romantic partners with behavior patterns that are in alignment with love and harmony.

  • If you identify as a fearful avoidant person, this course will help you take the steps you need to understand and fix fearful avoidant attachment. It will equip you to tackle unresolved trauma so that you can start to feel safe, trust others, and have healthy relationships. You will learn how to reprogram your betrayal wounds and communicate better when you need more space or more connection. In addition, you’ll learn to self-soothe when you're experiencing feelings of anger or resentment, improve your low self esteem, and avoid feeling like you're on high alert all the time. This course will ultimately equip you with everything you need to know to understand your attachment style better and build stronger personal relationships as someone with a fearful attachment.

  • If fearful avoidant is your partner's attachment style, then completing this course will also be extremely valuable for teaching you the fundamentals of attachment theory and how it affects your romantic relationship. It will help you understand how fearful avoidant individuals think and feel in their close relationships. By taking the course, you will learn how to analyze your partner's behavioral patterns to gauge when they are experiencing negative emotions, when they seek intimacy, or when they need their space. By taking this course, you will learn how to communicate better with your loved one and be sure you're meeting your partner's needs much more effectively.

  • The Reprogramming for Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style Course is an online and self-paced program you can complete at your own pace and on your own schedule. How you work through it is totally up to you. Feel free to binge it on an empty weekend or complete as little as 10 minutes a day whenever you can. There are no coursework deadlines for you to worry about so you can even take a few weeks break when life gets busy – then pick up right where you left off!

  • Absolutely. If you feel that the Reprogramming for Fearful Avoidant Attachment Course is not for you, you can cancel your membership at any time – no questions asked. We have a very high success rate of students developing into secure attachment styles and feeling more fulfilled in all areas of their lives after enrolling in our courses and programs. We're confident that you'll have the same success. But if for whatever reason it no longer feels like the right fit or time for you, you can cancel any time.